Grief is not a series of stages or a neatly defined process.
It is an experience that is unique to you and your relationship with the person
who died. The unpredictability and uniqueness of grief can be scary to some,
and Western culture often does not know what to do with grief because it is not
a prescribed or linear route. There is no clear direction for where it can or
should go. However, your grief is important because it is yours. Grief is not one feeling but a compilation of many—sometimes
conflicting—feelings. It is also a journey with many thoughts, physical
responses, and spiritual questions. Because grief is such a complex experience,
it is important to pay good attention to it and dutifully care for it. When we
neglect our grief, it is not uncommon to make unhealthy decision or complicate
our lives and relationships in destructive ways.
Here are some things to consider when grieving:
- Self-care - Take care of your mental and
physical needs
- Maintain your relationship - Take time to
remember, share stories, and honor your person
- Create healthy coping strategies – Identify
healthy outlets for expressing your grief
- Get support – Identify people who will help you
explore feelings, thoughts, and questions
- Be patient with yourself - Grief is hard work so
be gentle
Additional Resources
TEDx Talks - Grief is Good
TEDx Talks - Against Grieving in Silence